I made it stop.
Ask me — a year ago, a month ago, a week ago — where I thought I’d be. This is not the answer I would have given you. This is not an answer that would have ever even been in the furthest corner of my mind. I feel like I’ve been sitting in a dark room for so long just waiting…
And closing it again is long and painful, a bit more each time.
It always gets better until it gets worse again. I’m just frustrated because things are moving too slow for me and I just want to start to live. It will get better, it has to.
[Ma dysphorie est un montre dans une boîte. Une petite. Vielle. Boîte en carton.
Elle est toujours là mais pas visible, juste là.
La plupart du temps ça va. Mais des fois… Le monstre fait des trous.
Des petits trous, pour la plupart. Ou des gros trous.
Des fois… Le carton s’abîme. Le scotch aussi.
Des fois la boîte s’ouvre. Et le monstre s’échappe.
Et la refermer est long et douloureux, un peu plus chaque fois.]
What is Qs About the T?
Qs About the T began as a workshop in 2008, as a means of introducing terminology and subjects related to trans* and gender-variant identities to queer and trans* allies. It has been presented at conferences and colleges as a means of exposing LGBT and queer allies to various issues affecting the trans* community. It has been well received at conferences such as the Long Island GLBT Services Network Conference, Civil Liberties and Public Policy conference, and has reached audiences from New Jersey to Massachusetts.
In an effort to reach a wider audience, I have decided to expand upon the initial workshop and create an internet-based space for discussing the social implications, challenges, and experiences of being transgender or gender-variant in the United States. As it develops, this blog will grow to include resources for allies, as well as a space for answering questions many people have concerning the lives and experiences of trans*-identified individuals. Though I cannot speak for the community as a whole, I am willing to provide answers based on my personal experiences and the knowledge I have accumulated over the years as a community educator.
I am by no means an expert. I simply have a substantial interest in deconstructing stereotypes, unveiling truths, and shedding light on the often misrepresented trans* community. I have dedicated a significant amount of time to issues affecting queerness and gender variance, both academically and socially. Having served as a youth leader, student org leader, and activist in myriad capacities, providing accurate and reliable information is something I value greatly. And as our world dives deeper into the age of the Internet, it’s important for me, for many reasons, to continue working toward normalizing and demystifying the transgender and gender variant community.
For more information on the work I have done in the past, or for information on how I can help you educate others, you may email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.